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Myths About Lesbians

1. All lesbians hate men.

Fact: It’s a myth that all lebsians hate men. The fact that a woman is sexually and emotionally attracted to another woman has absolutely nothing to do with men. Most lesbians carry on long-lasting and emotionally satisfying friendships with men.

2. Some lesbians want to be men.

Fact: Lesbians who appear more masculine do so for fashion or comfort. There is a wide variety of gender expression in both men and women regardless of sexual orientation. A person seeking to change their sex is called a transsexual.

3. You can’t know if you are a lesbian unless you sleep with a woman.

Fact: This myth about lesbains is simply untrue. You do not have to sleep with someone in order to know you are attracted to them. The same holds true for heterosexuals. Discovering your sexuality is not about sleeping with someone.

4. Lesbians are attracted to all women.

Fact: If a person is attracted to one specific gender this does not mean that they are attracted to all members of that gender. This is true for both men and women, regardless of which gender they are attracted to.

5. Being a lesbian is a choice and can be changed.

More and more studies are finding that sexual orientation is not something chosen, rather it’s an inborn trait found in most animal species. There is plenty of evidence that therapy and counseling to “make someone straight” is ineffective.

6. Lesbian relationships are all about sex.

Fact: Sex is an important aspect of any healthy relationship, but not the only aspect. Lesbians connect on an emotional and spiritual level, and like heterosexual couples can choose whether or not to have families and children. (Kids with Lesbian Parents Do Just Fine) Sex has nothing to do with this aspect of the relationship.

7. Lesbians just haven’t met the right man yet.

Lesbianism has nothing to do with men, many lesbians have not met the right woman yet, but again it has nothing to do with men.

8. You can tell a lesbian by how she looks.

Fact: Some homosexuals claim to have what is referred to as “gaydar”. This is nothing more than an intuition regarding another persons’ sexuality. Based on the fact that some people are still in the closet, there is really no way to know this.

9. One lesbian in the relationship has to be “the man”.

Fact: While there are lesbian couples that are butch/femme, both partners are clearly women. Butch/femme is not the only kind of relationship for lesbians, but most women may prefer no kind of labeling at all as this generalizes them.

10. Lesbians can’t be spiritual.

Fact: While some denominations consider homosexuality a sin, there are many faiths and churches that accept all humans regardless of any differences. Spirituality is a personal belief system that has nothing to do with organized practices or sexual preferences.

These myths about lesbians are just that – myths. As with any genre of myths, there’s the appearance of truth and so some people believe them. Now that you have the facts about these lesbian myths, you can debunk them the next time you hear someone repeat them.

Source: Written by Samantha Gluck on Healthyrussian-kissPlace

Paula, 2014, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

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Are You With the Right Lesbian Partner?

These, in my mind, are just basic common sense and loving ways to treat anyone. If your partner has these traits, then you are very fortunate. As they are read, it is a good check list to know if your darling is treated the same way by you.

1. She doesn’t try to change you. She likes the fact that you both have things in common, but you are your own person. She respects the fact that you want your own bank account.

2. She pays attention when you speak. She may not always agree with you, but you are the centre of her life.

3. Even after years together, she treats you like she was dating you. Flowers arrive and little gifts surprise you and it isn’t your birthday or any special occasion.

4. While you are not glued together, she misses you when you are gone.

5. She is genuinely interested in your family and isn’t a tag-along.

6. She is honest with you. Her feedback may not always please you, and she won’t be pushed around, but she is your best friend and loyal supporter.

7. She is not controlling or jealous. She wants you to have private time with special friends. Ex-girl friends are not suspiciously viewed but are welcome.

8. She lets you vent. She may argue strongly with you but is not vicious.

9. She enjoys your company, but may need time for herself. She seeks compromise on difficult issues – and often she ‘will agree to disagree.’

10. She is faithful and will not cheat on you. Being with her is a joy.

Paula, 2014, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

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Lesbians, Pakistan Islamist Society & Honour Killings

What do you do if you know that you are a lesbian in Pakistan?

A city is your only hope for freedom and a chance to find a woman to love. Cities also allow women to wear blue jeans and cut their hair short. Universities are places to challenge society in dress and speech. By nature, many university students are non-conformists and are interested in western democracies with freedom of lifestyles. However, if a lesbian gest caught in any homosexual act, Pakistani law can imprison a lesbian for life. Most gays and lesbians worst fears are family and neighbours who may decide to murder homosexuals in honour killings.

In an Islamic country, there are few role models for lesbians to follow. The internet becomes a source of information and hope. If a Pakistani lesbian does find a woman to love, they can walk down the streets holding hands, as this is a custom regarded as ‘sisterly love.’ The main problem occurs when a lesbian reaches the age of marriage which is the fabric of Pakistani society. Some lesbians buckle under pressure and marry men. There is also the struggle to love oneself in a society that considers homosexuality unnatural and a disease. Islam considers homosexuality a sin.

If a Pakistani lesbian does manage to find someone to love, many people may just overlook the two of them living together. It is a society that feels that women don’t have sexual needs or desires. That kind of woman works in a brothel!

Lesbian dating occurs on the internet and another way to date is to be part of a circle of lesbians. Professional women stand a better chance of being lesbians and marriages of convenience do occur where lesbians ‘marry’ homosexual men. Money and power are two modes of protection, allowing travel outside of the country.

It is a hard life for Pakistani lesbians and others that live in countries where ‘love dare not raise its name.’ However, love is an incredible force and when combined with initiatives can lead to a happy life. We wish all the brave lesbians in this situation, every happiness and love.

Paula, 2014, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

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Japanese Lesbians: Alive- but in the Shadows

Japanese lesbians are celebrating the love of women, but in a quieter manner than their Western counterparts. In fact, it is hard to find any literature or art on lesbianism in Japan. Homosexual males fair better since there are considerable more written works on the subject. Why?

Japanese society seems to be hard on females. There is very strong evidence to suggest that a female is not considered an adult, unless she is married with at least one child. To further complicate matters, Japanese law does not acknowledge homosexuals and marriage must exist between a man and a woman. The message to young women is clear, you are not a ‘real’ woman until you are married to a man

and have ‘his’ child. The Japanese have a word for this, (ryosai kenbo) meaning “good mother, wise mother.” Females are not fully sexual beings and sex is about producing children and satisfying the man as head of the household.

Finding Words for Homosexuality

For many years, the word “doseiai,” was used for both male and female same-sex love. Then, the word “rezubian” was introduced, sometimes reduced to “rezu.” There is an

English equivalent for dyke “daiku” but it often holds negative connotations.

Like most pornography, Japanese porn contains ‘movie lesbians.’ Like in Western society (and elsewhere) they are exaggerated and unrealistic women, formed in the image and likeness of males. Many lesbians refuse to use the word “rezubian” as it gets such a negative and “unnatural” imagine. “Porn rezubians” are viewed as sex crazed, emotionally unbalanced, and crossing and encouraging others to step over the boundaries of “normal sex.” The message is clear, they are Inferior to the “good wife and wise mother” ideal.

Females in the Workplace

In the majority of cases, the workplace mirrors the traditional family.

Most males hold the top jobs, while females are subordinate.

It is estimated that 90% of women in Japan will marry. A ‘hidden’ lesbian is presumed to be a single, heterosexual woman, who will eventually marry. Married women are often forced to leave a company. Public

Housing is geared towards married couples. Marriage secures privileges and rights in society.

Lesbian Activism:

Only one group, “Regumi,” doseiai,” was used for both male and female same-sex love. is openly known, but lesbians are often afraid to be seen visiting or associating with the organization. Hundreds of years of patriarchy is hard to combat or co-exist alongside.

But, look below at the events. Lesbians are alive and thriving. To all our lesbian sisters, greetings. It would be nice to travel and meet you.

Paula, 2014, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

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Living as a Lesbian and Gay in Israel

Israeli seems to be the most progressive country in the Middle East when it comes to homosexual rights.

Lesbians can serve in the military, adopt a child born to her current partner by artificial insemination from an anonymous sperm donor. Israel only recognizes marriage performed by religious institutions. This means that both heterosexuals (who don’t want a religious ceremony) and lesbians must get married outside of Israel. Both heterosexual and homosexual marriages will be ruled legal once the couples return to Israel. This law came into being in 2006.

Middle East countries that allow homosexual activity without persecution or penalty are Israel, Iraq, Jordan, Turkey and Cyprus. Israel was the first country in the Middle East to afford legal protection of homosexual rights in all areas of society.

Tel Aviv has been named the “gay capital of the Middle East” and one of the most friendly cities to homosexuals in the world. Many cities have an annual Pride Day.

Foreign partners of Israeli citizens are allowed to remain in the country. Large cities have gay or lesbian clubs, bars. Those orthodox Jews who denounce homosexuality have to be careful that such denunciation does not form hate language or their actions towards gays may be construed as discrimination. An orthodox wedding hall reception was fined by Israeli courts when it denied two legally married lesbians the opportunity to use its facilitie

Since 1993, homosexuals have been allowed to openly serve in the military. Youth who are gay, lesbian and transgendered are allowed exemption from military service and can do social, community work, but large numbers of gays and lesbians opt to be part of the military service.

Note: Arabic lesbians living in Israel often condemn Israel for “pinking” its role in accepting homosexuality. They state that Arabic homosexuals.

Paula, 2014, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com

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Am I Lesbian?

Women who like women are called lesbians. We are women who find other women sexually attractive. We are women who feel emotionally and mentally close to women. We are women who prefer women as partners (or lovers?).

As lesbians, we are not alone. One out of every 10 adolescents is a lesbian or a gay. Many famous lesbians can be found in the historical scene. Lesbians can be doctors, teachers, lawyers, factory workers, police officers, politicians, ministers, movie stars, artists, mothers, nurses, truck drivers, models, writers. You name it…

Lesbians can be white, black, Asian, Latin, South American, Jewish, Catholic, Protestant, Buddhist. Lesbians can be rich, poor, working class, or middle class. Some lesbians live in heterosexual marriages. Some lesbians are disabled. Lesbians can be young women and older women. You name it, we will be.

Lots of lesbians live in cities and in the countryside. We are everywhere.

How can i know if ı’m lesbian?

“When I was little, I dreamed of living with my best girlfriend when I grew up, and this feeling remained unchanged as I got older.” – Tuğba, 21

“When I was very young, we would fall in love with other girls, but then we were expected to get out of this process. We had to read books telling the stories of girls meeting boys and boys meeting girls. Honestly, I could never read those books to the end.”

During adolescence, most young girls become aware of their sexual feelings and become interested in the idea of “dating.” Many find men attractive, but many young girls are also attracted to their fellows.

You may realize that you like your fellows. You may feel that you are different from your girlfriends, sometimes not at all numb. You may find yourself slaughtering girls, while your girlfriends are cutting guys. You may not be interested in dating guys. ”Why aren’t there any guys like that wonderful woman I’m seeing?” You can ask yourself.

In addition to all this, you may be confused or doubtful about whether you are a lesbian or not. The vast majority of adults will tell us that it is too early for us to call ourselves gay, that we are going through an era, or that we do not know what we are talking about.

You may be confused because you find both men and women attractive. This is not a problem. Some women may have sex with both men and women throughout their lives. Some may choose to be completely lesbian or heterosexual afterwards. (“Prefer” is a suitable sexual orientation. seemed to me not the definition.)

Sexuality develops over time, so don’t worry if you’re unsure of your sexual identity.

Am i normal?

“We are told that homosexuality is sickly, perverted, sinful or abnormal. But those who say this are the same people who claim that the place of women is the kitchen and that the disabled are useless. Who has the right to say what is normal? For some, eating raw fish is normal, for others. It can be disgusting and abnormal. ”- Tülin, 19

“It is very courageous that we become aware of the homosexual orientation within us and reach the desire to change our living conditions accordingly.” Natalie, 23

Yes, you are normal. It is entirely natural for a person to be attracted to their fellows, but this is not something supported by our society; many people suppress these feelings due to prejudices against gay and lesbian.

Most scientists agree that the foundations of sexual orientation were laid at a very young age, sometimes even at birth.

Whether you are gay or straight, it is normal and healthy to be yourself, and learning to love ourselves is what matters.

How does it feel to be young and lesbian?

“I feel very strong, special, independent and brave” -Natalie, age 23.

“It’s a scary feeling at times. There were times when I wasn’t sure of myself, but other than that, I felt great and proud.” – Tülin, age 19.

There is no such thing as certain rules, right or wrong of being a lesbian. Because of the stereotypical lesbians that society has imposed on us since childhood, you may think that if you are a lesbian, you must have certain characteristics. but Lesbians are women of any level of education, any appearance or profession.

Your sexual orientation is only part of your personality, and you likely have hobbies and interests that are the same as your straight friends.

Some people cannot accept lesbians and gays because of homophobic and prejudiced thoughts. Lesbians and gays suffer from discrimination and violence, which is why there is a gay and lesbian organizations fighting for gay rights.

“From the moment I accepted myself and my sexuality, I realized that I started to be more interested in life and to have more warm relations with my friends because I was much more at peace with myself” -Tuğba, age 21

“I often felt depressed and sad because of the homophobia I was constantly confronted with, but then I realized that I have the power to educate people of my generation.” – Müge, age 20.

How will we learn to love ourselves?

“It is very important that we do not deny our feelings. We may be surprised at how happy we can be if we can truly be the kind of person who comes from within. And we have to reflect on our positive aspects, being a lesbian is a very positive thing. ”- Rabia, age 24

“It helps when I interact with people who make me feel good and happy. And I’m trying to do things that make me feel good. ”- Serap, age 19

Every person has the right to be satisfied with himself/herself. We are all valuable people. Developing self-confidence is very important for young people. It is difficult for lesbian and gay youth to feel good about themselves when there are people around us who think we are doomed to lead sick, perverted, or very unhappy lives.

If we feel obliged to hide who we really are, we may want to harm ourselves through alcohol, drugs and suicide. Especially if we don’t have anyone to talk to about the fact that we are lesbians, we can feel quite excluded, fearful and depressed.

Above all, we learn to love our identity as young lesbians. It helps to read good books about lesbians – books about lesbians with complete and accurate information and leading very fulfilling lives. It also helps to meet other lesbians because this way we understand that lesbians are at least as diverse as any other human group and society tells us a lot of lies.

“I’m a lesbian and I’m fine.” It may be helpful to say this to yourself every day. And to talk, try to find someone who thinks lesbians are okay. Remember; Being a lesbian is normal and natural, just as it is normal and natural for some to be heterosexual.

Who should i tell?

“Until you feel comfortable about it, you should not feel pressured to tell others that you are a lesbian. Be prepared for different reactions of people. ” -Tuğba, age 21.

“You just have to tell someone if you think you have enough strength to face the things that can happen. Try to open up to others when you think you cannot cope with these emotions on your own any longer. If you think your family may go crazy, tell someone who can be more objective.” – Sabriye, age 19.

“When I told a few of my friends that I was a lesbian, I told them that I was no different than 5 minutes ago, but now I am not keeping a big secret from them.” – Tülin, age 19.

Coming out is the process of accepting yourself as a lesbian and understanding how open you want to be about your sexual orientation.

Unfortunately, not everyone you know might think being a lesbian is the greatest thing since sliced bread rolls, it’s hard to know who can support you and handle it. Some of your friends will accept you, others may move away from you or tell other people without your permission. It can be very difficult to open up to the family.

But some lesbian and gay youth were expelled from their homes when their families learned of their orientation.

Having someone you can talk to is important because it is neither normal nor healthy to have to keep such an important part of your life a secret. The web addresses of gay organizations and societies that you can trust, get help or consult on are available in the “links” section of our site.

How can i meet other lesbian people?

“There are many lesbians around you, but you don’t know they are lesbians just as they don’t know you are lesbians. Do not lose hope. You will meet someone after all. ”- Serap, age 19

Local feminists, lesbian rganizations, dating apps. (You can find internet addresses of these organizations in the links section of our site) Moreover.

Search gay / lesbian or feminist publications in your area.

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Lesbian Police Office Stalked Ex-girlfriend

A Scottish police officer has faced court after assaulting her former lover upon discovering she was having an affair.

The police officer, Heather Atkinson is alleged to have terrorised her ex-partner Laura Jenkins after learning she had started seeing a mutual friend.

Atkinson was not only alleged to have assaulted Jenkins but also to have followed her and her new girlfriend in a dangerous high speed car chase through the pair’s home town of Greenock Inverclyde in Scotland.

Atkinson also outed her girlfriend to her mother.

Appearing in court last week, Atkinson denied all charges and was released by the Sheriff on a good behaviour bond and ordered to reappear before court in March 2014.

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Lesbian Parents Forced to Accept Rights of Donor

A lesbian couple faced court in France this week after their sperm donor sought parental rights of their child.

The donor, a friend of the couple, had initially agreed to donate sperm and waive his parental rights to the child. The lesbian couple had exclusive custody of their two-year-old offspring until this week when a French court ruled in favour of the donor.

The judge’s decision means the father will be granted visitation rights, before eventually moving to a shared custody agreement where the child will spend every other weekend with the father.

The lawyer for the child’s biological mother, said her clients were upset by the ruling.

“A man did my client and her partner a favour. However he then changed his mind and wanted to take on the role of father. But the initial parental project was between two women,” the lawyer said.

The father’s lawyer said his client’s desire to have his parental rights recognised was nothing out of the ordinary.

“The demand to have his rights recognized is completely normal, the only distinction we have a homosexual couple who refused to acknowledge the presence of the father,” the lawyer said.

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Michelle Hardwick Comes Out as Lesbian

A popular UK soapie star, Michelle Hardwick, has come out in an interview with The Mirror as a lesbian.

The actress best known for her role as Vanessa Woodfield on UKTV soap Emmerdale spoke for the first time about her relationship with her partner Rosie Nicholl.

The 36 year old actor said that she and her girlfriend met about 18 months ago and were friends for some time before becoming a couple. She said she couldn’t be happier with the status of her personal life.

“Life is good – and my life with Rosie is a big part of that, it really is bliss. I’ve not spoken about it sooner because it never seemed like the right time.

“When I was in The Royal, the majority of our audience were older and I would have been nervous of revealing too much. But since joining Emmerdale I’ve been getting asked about my personal life and when people want to know ‘Do you have a boyfriend?’ it’s tricky.

“I don’t want to hide anything,” she told The Mirror. “I’ve never actually been able to talk about ‘my girlfriend’ or ‘partner’ – this person that means everything to me, and it feels good to be able to finally do it.”

She went on to say:”I do tweet, so people can see me and Rosie on there but they probably think we’re mates who share a house. People say, ‘I’d never have guessed you were gay’ because they expect you to look a certain way and I don’t fit their stereotype.”

Hardwick admits that as teenager she struggled with her sexuality and was initially concerned how her family and friends would take the news that she was a lesbian. She delayed coming out to her family until she was 29.

“The only thing my family were upset about is I hadn’t felt I could come out sooner… As a teenager, it was hard as I had to keep things secret and it shouldn’t be that way. Hopefully things are different now.”

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Lesbian Model Jessica Clark in Playboy

Just Some Facts:Unknown

Jessica Clark is one stunning beauty stretching to about 5 ft. 11 inches. She has been featured in many fashion magazines. Perhaps, her beauty comes from the combination of genes; she comes from that come from English, Irish, Indian, and Nigerian descent.

On April 21, 1985, she was born in the United Kingdom and finished her education at the London School of Economics and Political Science.

Jessica and Lacey Stone fell in love and married in 2010. The model and the beautiful work-out instructor were a ‘dream couple.’ The marriage lasted two years and I am sure these were great years of love and growth.

Movies: Television and Playboy

Jessica Clark, who plays tempestuous deity Lilith on HBO’s True Blood, has won her acclaim. In June 2013, Playboy asked her to pose (clothes on) and she did. Below is the picture in Playboy where Jessica is sprawled across a bed, upside down in a a sexy white tank and hot pink leggings,.

Lesbian Model Jessica Clark in Playboy-June, 2013

Paula, 2013, stories4hotbloodedlesbians.com